There are probably lots of things going through your mind if you are thinking about having sex for the first time. You may.
When you're in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn them off. Not everyone is clear on his mind on how to have sex which.
Your partner may come up with a dozen excuses to say "Not tonight, dear, I have a ____," but how many reasons can the two of you name for.
If you don't have sex with your partner often, that may make you feel less connected to them, which can mean you don't talk about your feelings.
The dilemma I've been with my boyfriend for a year and it's been near perfect, if not for the fact we don't have sex. It dwindled after three months.